The Bigger Picture – Family Wellness and Our Link to Society

Put together all the existing families across the globe and you have a society.

It is as simple as that.

The individual family upbringing will be reflected in the kind of society that is created.

Every family teaches something about how to deal with the outside world; how to get along, what to do about injustice, and how to relate it all to your life.

Some teach conformity, some rebellion, some reinforce group responsibility and yet others teach by building a protective shell around their young ones.

Which we think is right or wrong is not the point of discussion here.

The point is that many decades ago, the family was the only source for teaching its members what they needed to know to grow up to be an evolved adult. However today the importance of institutions such as schools, colleges, religious institutions, workplaces, and governments have become integral parts of this process.

Whether we like it or not they have grown in importance to become our extended family.

Add to it the indisputable influence of television, movies, the internet, and social media… and what you are dealing with is a whole new world outside of the one you are living in. By the sheer wealth of our technology advancement, family life as things have worked out often takes a back seat getting only the left-over time after work, school, college, etc. are through.

Therefore, it is vital that we marry the two.

The two need not function independently of each other. For example, a bold and bubbly 5-year-old recently enrolled in a kindergarten school. However contrary to her nature she did not settle into her new routine. The parents assumed it was the new environment. Yet months passed by and little Hannah just would not want to go to school. She’d cry herself to sleep, cry herself out of sleep every morning, and helpless with her limited communication skills, she tirelessly begged all in her family to not send her to this school. On the other hand, her teacher at school noticed that Hannah was weak at many skills, even those that her peers seemed to have no trouble coping with. She was slow at her work and needed added individual attention.

Finally, perturbed, and unable to figure out the reason for Hannah’s behavior, her parents felt the need to meet with the teacher. The school however only allowed pre-arranged parent-teacher meetings. So, a special request to meet with the class teacher was made. This took another couple of weeks to arrange.

In the meanwhile, Hannah continued to feel miserable.

Eventually, it was discussed that Hannah needed extra attention at home in order for her to catch up on the curriculum and feel like she fit in with her fellow mates. And the teacher now aware of her emotional state agreed to adopt a softer approach henceforth.

As you can see, a simple feedback session made it possible for the information to be shared by all involved. This kind of feedback paves the way for appropriate positive changes to be made. Unfortunately, due to a clogged system of operation and absence of healthy co-existence, this easy solution took close to three months to unfold.

There is a need for families to partner with any institution that their members are involved in and equally there is a need for all types of institutions to consider the family as part of their establishment.

Today, sit with your family for the sole purpose of finding out where everyone is in relation to the outside world — school, college, work, business, social groups, religious institutions, karate class, skating club, music lessons, boy scouts, whatever! Build their self-esteem and encourage open and honest communication. Put these powerful forces to work in your family.

After all, the family is an integral unit in society. And when each family starts functioning in this manner, making it a more nurturing one, it will have its effects at large on society too.

It’s about time we lead ourselves into the beginning of a new kind of society.

Tasneem Kagalwalla @tasneemkagalwalla

Life Coach & Lifestyle Blogger

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