It was shocking to hear the way ‘the institution’ treated Meghan and Harry’s baby Archie. Not recognizing his birthright by denying him a title and protection. The biggest surprise by far was their concern for the color of his skin. It’s difficult to fathom the institution’s evolution towards humanity is so behind that even a child born of their own blood can not be seen beyond the color of his skin. I can not imagine how the British people feel that the institution that resides over them has such a myopic view of the value of humans.
I wonder if it’s a confirmation of something they already knew or feared. Apparently, Archie’s skin color takes precedence over his being the Queen’s great-grandson. Saying it a million different ways still doesn’t take the shock away of the status of humanity with which the institution is operating even in this day and age. It’s one thing to continue the tradition; it’s an entirely different thing to continue racism. I can’t even imagine what the institution thinks of the wildly popular Netflix show Bridgerton with a biracial Queen Charlotte residing on the throne.
You Never Really Know What People Are Going Through
Diana admitted to isolation, depression, and an eating disorder, but you’d think things have changed by now.
Even if some of us thought Meghan could face some of what Diana experienced, it was difficult to watch Meghan state a desire to take her life. Imagine the level of isolation and lack of support one has to experience to get to that point.
Never forget to treat everyone as human first. It’s easy to make assumptions about people who appear to have it all. You never know what kind of pain someone is going through despite their outward advantages.
Say ‘No’ To Perfectionism
Perfectionism comes from a deep-seated fear of not being loved. There really is no such thing as perfect so it’s also a lie. When you subscribe to perfectionism you automatically subscribe to lying to yourself and others.
After a while, perpetuating that lie becomes as important as survival. When we take on the task of exuding perfectionism it alienates and isolates the ones we love and prevents people from confiding in us when they are going through something. I create lies, guilt, and shame. It creates isolation and hopelessness that Meghan was speaking about.
Without Empathy, Love, And Support A Palace Can Feel Like A Prison
Some of the most lavish living arrangements cannot replace the human need for love, connection, support, and the desire to be seen and heard. Cherish the moment you have with your loved one.
When you don’t have peace of heart and mind you can not enjoy any blessing you may have. Freedom of heart and mind is worth letting go of a royal title and lifestyle for.
Family Comes Before Title
Meghan and Harry have proven that family, peace of mind, love, and connection are worth leaving royal titles for. Makes you want to appreciate loving moments with your own family.
A true reflection of a person’s character is gauged by how their family feels around them when they are not on display.
One can argue that the Queen is doing her job, but any job is better accomplished with humanity, love, generosity, and grace in mind. Even a beautiful thing is made ugly when humanity is taken out of it.
Playing Roles Dehumanizes People
When you are playing a role you can’t see people as individuals, you can only see them for the role you need them to play in your life.
Even little children are aware when their adults need them to play a role. They can tell they are not loved for who they really are, but the role their adults need them to play so they can feel comfortable or happy.
It’s difficult to see that the Queen’s role is so embedded into who she is that she has forgotten to be a human first; not giving her own flesh and blood the recognition they deserve.
It may seem like it’s pride, but it’s just fear of losing what seems to need more guarding than one would think is necessary.
Tradition is one thing, racism is an entirely other; one cannot be passed on as the other. When you see humans as humans, bigotry is impossible.
Unfortunately, it’s clear the institution has not reached the level of evolution to see beyond race, color, nationality, and titles. They would rather alienate their own than break roles and ranks.
It is refreshing to see the courage of Meghan and Harry to choose love and family instead.
Sanya Bari @sanya.bari
Therapist, Coach, Relationship Expert, & Lifestyle Blogger
SHE Magazine USA